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After a tense first rose ceremony (first round of interviews for a job) a few of the bachelors (candidates) are sitting around the pool, purely happy they survived this first round. The boys are sharing their views over a cold beer after a very shaky start.

“This role not my usual cup of tea, but I will just stick it out and see how we go.”

“I think the role has a great work-life balance, nice legs too.”

Back at the house, the Bachelorette (Hiring Manager) is also tossing up her decisions with a cloud of confusion. “For so many years, I have always dated (hired) the bad boy, someone who just wants to climb the corporate ladder without getting to know me and grow into the role and then BAM! Six months and they break up with me (resign). I want to take my time with this one, try something a little different and be sure my parents (leadership team) like him too.”

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As some time has passed, there has been extensive delay between rose ceremony’s (second round interviews) and the bachelors (candidates) grow restless in the camp. Most seek refuge with the host (recruitment consultant) to seek further clarification, whilst others bow out of the process in sheer despair and frustration. The host gives the best advice of being yourself, following your heart and if this journey is right for you, it isn’t worth rushing such a big decision.  


“Why is there a hold up?”

“Should I show her my party trick? Is it time for the hail Mary approach and go all stage 5 clinger?”

One candidate could not contain himself and broke down in tears “I can’t handle waiting. I have 15 other bachelorettes DM’ing me on LinkedIn, I am so done with this. I just want to dance! Tell her to get stuffed!”

The Bachelorette finally makes her decisions on who to take on the next round of dates. No surprise, it’s the three bad boys (candidates from competitors). Cheaper (in salary), tried and true with experience. Safe options. Good for now. Whilst she wanted to give the nice guys a go, she felt the pressure from all sides in picking someone good for the immediate requirements.

The arrow attached to this very long-winded bow is that in every recruitment processes you put your heart on the line (not on national TV!) and that falling in love (getting a new job) takes longer and longer in this day and age. 

My advice is to be patient, approach each rose ceremony as an opportunity to grow with this Bachelorette, to see if she (this career move) is right for you. If not, be honest and up front, and thank them for this opportunity, as you never know what the future might hold.

The same goes for hiring managers (Bacherlorettes - sorry I am not trying to be gender specific either). If there are candidates who just don’t fit the bill, why should they pick purely on getting an outcome? Conversely, why not take a risk on a candidate who may swing your train of thought and change the way you have always done things?

This is about finding the right person, not a shotgun hiring ceremony just for the cover of TV Week!

Whether you are a Bachelor (candidate) or Bachelorette (Hiring Manager/HR) I am always keen to hear how I can assist in your process to find the right match. 

Stephen Christofakakis
Consultant, Sharp & Carter